What is your Zodiac Sign?
I'm Taurus

You got me intrigued by that last post! Taurus has a dark side?! Details pleaseeeeee.

Anonymous

We always hold some information back that might offend some fellows because everyone is not same. Every sign have something bad about them though. We will share them one day anyway.

Being a Taurus is a blessing and a curse because if we trust you we will do anything for you, but if you betray us we won't see it coming. Also, because we are always really cheerful, but at the same time because of that we don't always realize we're not okay sometimes.

Anonymous

Some fellows asked us about how they can boost their self confidence and overcome shyness. So I’m sharing some tips to gain confidence and boost it up. Just random points—not in any order.

Confidence is earned through positive recognition and reinforcement.
It is spawned when we dare to see the world through an alternate lens. It grows when we have the courage to embrace the experience of the unknown and the unknowable.

If you have low self confidence, you probably speak negatively about yourself, all the time. And the majority of it, if not all, is probably totally untrue.

When you use “always” and “never” in negative ways, such as “I always make a mess of things” or “things never go my way”. These statements can never really be true, and this type of negative exaggeration poisons your mind and self-esteem.

Write out all the negative beliefs you had about yourself, and to then identify who the person was who gave you that idea in the first place.

Almost every time, a negative idea that a person believes about him/herself “I’m not as smart as other people”, “I’ll never amount to anything”, “I’m not creative”, “I’m a flake”, “I’m a failure” etc., etc., came directly from someone in their past. Often this recollection of its origin comes as a complete shock, as this “fact” felt like it had been with them since they were born. Not so. And it’s usually not true at all. It probably wasn’t even true when they were first told it, long ago.

Become aggressively curious about finding out the truth about yourself. Whenever you get down on yourself, ask yourself what it is you are telling yourself about you, and write your beliefs down. They won’t be 100% true. Write out the opposite of each negative statement. Could it be that the opposite is actually true? (often that’s the case)

Recognize your achievements. Its not egotistical, it helps you to feel good. Look at a great win or success you’ve experienced and give yourself some credits.

Start speaking to everyone. You can do it by just saying “hello” or “good morning” to one person every day. Don’t limit yourself to speaking to people you know or “click” with. Talk to everyone in your community, talk to men, women, young, old, whether they seem normal, strange—even if it’s just to say hello. When attending a social event, don’t just stick with the people you already know, go and have a conversation with someone you don’t know and you never know what or who you will discover.

Acknowledge and welcome all of your experiences — the good stuff and the bad stuff. It’s all equally valid and hiding things away because you don’t like them is just creating conflict.

Look for the patterns of thought that take you to a place where you start second guessing or over thinking. Now imagine that your best friend went through exactly the same way and ended up holding themselves back — what would you want to say to them?

Stop playing different roles and squeezing yourself into boxes based on what you think people expect you to act like.

Switch “auto-pilot” mode off. Make deliberate decisions on what really matters to you.

Scared of looking silly? Of course you want to make a good impression, but when you become overly engrossed in what others think you increase the odds of putting your foot in your mouth. It’s no biggie so don’t let it stop you. It just doesn’t matter.

Don’t think for a second that you can’t be confident. There are already loads if things you do with natural self-confidence, you just have to notice them and get familiar with how it feels. Look for the things you do where the question of whether you’re confident enough never arises.

Listen to your doubts but be ready to make deliberate decisions once you’ve heard them. Sometimes your doubts are there to let you know what you need to prepare for, so you can use them to your benefit as you move forward.

You’ve got a whole bunch of outdated rules that determine what you do, don’t do, should do and shouldn’t do. These rules limit your thinking and behavior. Tear up your rule book and notice how free you are to make great decisions.

Do not get annoyed with yourself because you didn’t make the most of something or stepped back from an opportunity. Don’t beat yourself up because that’s just going to make you feel worse. Be brutally honest and ask yourself what you gained from the situation and what you lost out on. Based on this win/lose balance, you’ll be able make a good choice next time.

Despite the fact that we dislike drama it always follows us. But don’t get swept up in the drama of what’s happening right now, look for more useful ways of engaging with what happens in your life.

"I can be better than this" is a much better attitude than "I deserve better than this" attitude.

You need to be around people who make you feel like YOU. Spend more time with people who support and encourage you, bring the good side in you and not with who undermine you.

Your body is a mirror for the mind, so shifting your body into a confident state can have surprising results.

Do not compare yourself with others, don’t try to validate yourself through comparisons.

There’s nothing wrong with being shy and it doesn’t mean you’re not confident. Do not over think about it or thinking you’re less than because you’re shy — the more you think like that the worse it gets.

Many insecurities, fears, and doubts stem from lack of understanding or lack of knowledge about something. The more you understand and know about a situation, the more comfortable you will be.

Your strengths can be used to overcome any of your weaknesses. We all have weaknesses but only undermine your confidence if you let them.

Being confident is an ongoing process. It isn’t a goal or an end-point that you reach and then stop. Keep playing to the best of your ability and your confidence will always be there to support you.

Look at the people you respect who seem confident — don’t copy them, but identify what it is they do differently that conveys confidence and what you can learn from it.

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